"Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of The Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the father through Him." Colossians 3:15-17
I’m still here. Sometimes thats a pretty good testimony! I’m still breathing and I still love God!
Here’s the thing, bro. You think you’re mad at her. You think you’re upset because she chose some guy she just met over you, her friend of however long. You think that what really pisses you off is her decisions and how they’ve affected your life from what you hoped it would be.
But you’re not…
This is so incredibly put holy cow.
And as a girl I can say, there have been times I cared so deeply for someone, and loved them about as much as you can fathom loving someone, without being in love with them. It in no way lessens the man as a person..especially if you have been becoming closer friends or are very close already.
It’s possible to think someone is insanely awesome, but not see them as the person you are going to marry. It’s possible and it’s okay.
It sucks to feel guilty for not feeling something you can’t make yourself feel. And I’m sure this goes both ways. I’m sure there have been girls with expectations over a male friendship and have treated it the same way.
This is such a reason for the whole “guys can’t be close friends with girls” debate.
It goes hand in hand with that whole “friend zoning” thing
Girls: be honest with guys. Don’t flirt with them for a while and then act all blind sided when they ask you out.
Don’t focus so much on “guarding your heart” you forget to look out for theirs. Guys have feelings too. They aren’t all out for one thing. That guy who said he likes you probably wants to settle down and get married someday too.
Be honest. Always. Even when it’s really hard.
It’s not fair for either party, when one side becomes too discontent with being “just friends” to really enjoy the friendship.
It’s not fair to either party to dance along the line of dating, and to talk in a romantic sort of manner, when one of the sides has no intention of taking the friendship further.
Bottom line- be honest with yourself and be honest with your friend.
Respect yourself and respect your friend.
If someone has to make the decision to walk away, that is their right.
If one person develops feelings and the other does not, that is okay.
I had no intentions of going into some friendship/relationship rant but this was too perfectly put and I was too I inspired…
There comes a point where you either decide to listen to that still voice from God, or choose to run away due to fear. I’ve decided to listen to that voice, and I’m scared out of my mind for what is going to happen next.
But that fully abundant, joy filled and peace laden life doesn’t come unless I’m following His lead…and He is worth the unknown, because it’s already completely known to Him.
I just started downing the rest of my tea like I was wishing it was tequila